Dr. Benjamin Harouni, a recent dental school graduate who was murdered Thursday by a disgruntled patient the El Cajon dental offices of his father, Dr. Jack Harouni, was described by members of the Jewish community who knew him as “sweet,” “extremely spiritual” and “wise beyond his years.”
Many friends of the family are expected at a funeral service tentatively set for 10 a.m. Sunday at El Camino Memorial Park, 5600 Carroll Canyon Road, San Diego.
Although described as Orthodox in various news reports, the Harounis, who were Persian Jews, could perhaps be better described as “traditional Sephardic,” following customs that spanned the Conservative and Orthodox branches of Judaism.
In Sacramento, where the family lived for many years before settling in San Diego, they supported three congregations — one Conservative, another modern Orthodox and the third Chabad.
Benjamin attended the community’s Shalom School, which served Jewish children of various denominations from kindergarten through fifth grade.
Rabbi Ben Herman of the Mosaic Law Congregation said that people at his Conservative shul remembered that Harouni worked with disabled and autistic children for his bar mitzvah project.
“He was extremely spiritual, wise beyond his years, and did more for his bar mitzvah project than anyone else,” Herman said. “He was a very precocious kid.”
Herman’s predecessor, Rabbi Reuven Taff, officiated at that bar mitzvah.
On Friday, Taff said he was in a “state of shock over this tragedy; it is beyond belief.”
He described Harouni as a “sweet, kind young man, very bright, very spiritual, a huge loss for the family and for the community.”
Rabbi Mendy Cohen of Chabad of Sacramento remembered how proud Harouni’s parents, Jack and Hilda, were of Benjamin upon his recent graduation from dental school.
“They are really God-fearing people; they love God, they give to the community, and (the murder) is devastating. One of my kids, Moshe, was his classmate,” Cohen said.
Rebbetzin Dinie Cohen said: “He was very fun-loving, very kind, a real neat kid, funny and a great, great person. He was such a kind, refined, sweet, good-natured boy, a beautiful boy.”
At USC, she said, Harouni became affiliated as an undergraduate with Chabad of USC led by Rabbi Dov and Runya Wagner, and after moving to San Diego, he joined Chabad of Downtown San Diego, led by Rabbi Zalman and Rebbetzin Nehama Carlebach.
His dentistry degree was earned at the University of the Pacific branch in San Francisco.
Donald H. Harrison is publisher and editor of San Diego Jewish World, a member of the San Diego Online News Association, where a version of this report first appeared.